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Rough Sex

Why Some Women Love It, Why Some Women Hate It, How To Introduce It, And How To Not Go Overboard

By Jackson Morris
Copyright © 2005, Seduction Insider.
Dating tips and sex advice for men and women.

Some Like It Hot

Let's talk about romance. Let's talk about passion. Let's talk about lust and unyielding adoration in the form of rough sex.

When I use words like romance, passion, and adoration most people immediately think of a great love affair or even a love story where the two people are smoldering merely from an embrace. Their eyes locked and entranced - even now they are breathing the same breath, inhaling and exhaling each other as if their union was the birth of nirvana itself.

Oblivious to everything surrounding them he grips her waist as if love were something you drive, pulling her close and slightly lifting her at the same time. She is futilely pushing on his chest with her small hands as if to only slow down the inevitabl...

Then as both mouths are about to taste the same kiss…she grabs his face with a furious grip, the tips of her nails slightly digging into whiskered flesh and she bites his bottom lip to the painful point of almost popping it.

Training Day

Some not only like it hot, they like it painful as well. Many women that you might look at as frail or weak or even fragile can take a lot more than one can imagine when it comes rough sex. Explore the obvious lessons of physics and logic first:

If you are a man of average height and weight in your late twenties, you probably weigh between 150 pounds and 200 pounds give or take a few pounds. Most guys really like to put it to a girl when getting it on. Now we have: Weight + Speed = Force. If she can take 150 pounds of anything slamming her until the point of climax then she can probably take some spanking and rough play.

Discovering if she likes it a little rough is not as tough as it seems and she has probably already given you clues.

For instance, if during intercourse she is always telling you to slow down or take it easy, then that is a sign that she wants the storybook lovemaking session that includes some slow, boring grinding that is much more satisfying to her than you. Women that hate rough play have no problem telling you to "take it easy".

The reason they don't like rough play most of the time is that they think it demeans them and promotes abuse and disrespect. Out of the bedroom maybe it does. On the other hand if she ever uses the words "harder" or "deeper" or "faster" or if SHE initiates anal sex then she can probably take more intense physical contact in other areas as well.

Now that you have heard the signs it is time to introduce some ideas to her and see what level she is playing at. The best way and most definitely the first way you should introduce rough play to your partner without looking like an abuser is Spanking.

Spanking your girl is something she might like (and you might too) and it is safe and regulated. You smack her ass (fingers together, palm arched and cupped) and then ask her, "Do you like that"? "Do you want more?" "Harder, do you want it harder"? Now you have achieved level one.

If you want to go to level two immediately then when she answers "yes, I like it", you grab a wad of hair and pull it as you say, "Of course you do".

True Romance

So now you know a few things about your girl and how to introduce them to her. Ask her as you are doing it if she is enjoying it or not. You know she likes the spanks and hair pulls - so maybe she is up for more. The next time you two are having intercourse, lay next to her in the spoon position lifting her leg a bit to penetrate her.

When you start getting into it, pull her hair and wrap your hand around her throat as if you are going to strangle her. Grip her firmly but not too tight, this is more mental than physical and many women get turned on in this ultimate "SUBMISSIVE" position.

Do not be surprised if you get turned on by it as well from dominating and slightly scaring her while turning her on at the same time. I call this position the "thief". A guy breaks in, gets caught in the act and tells her if she screams he will kill her. This is role play and role play is the best place for rough play.

Sometimes it is not just the spanking, pulling, pinching and biting it is the mental game you are playing with each as well. Speaking of which, the next level of rough play or pain is biting or pinching any sensitive body part such as the nipples, lips, clitoris, or even the head.

Some people (not me) like teeth as a sex tool and use them when they want to be rough. YIKES! Okay, maybe I like it a little. The veteran of rough play knows when to stop biting and not leave a scar or break the skin, because it is not healthy and frankly it is not nice. Anything that would leave a scar or truly physically hurt someone is going overboard and will probably have repercussions.

Be a good communicator with your partner and focus on mutual pleasure when it comes rough sex. If you are insistent on hurting creatures that are smaller and weaker than you for your own pleasure - you may have read Of Mice & Men too many times should consider to staying inside for a while.

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Imagine being able to suddenly be more appealing to the opposite sex. The very thought of discovering a magic way of turning heads and getting attention is exciting and intriguing. Is it possible to actually affect the way the opposite gender responds to you? Yes, it is and human pheromones are nature's way of sending a subtle, but powerful message to the opposite sex. Pheromones are hormonal substances released by all human beings, and there are ways of harnessing this powerful scent for your own benefit.

 

In the animal kingdom, pheromones are chemicals popularly known for their ability to attract members of the same species, and most often of the opposite sex. These pheromones are actually scents that animals recognize and use to communicate with one another. This aromatic signal causes sexual stimulation and will lead an animal to seek out another of its kind for mating purposes. Not unlike animals, human beings are also attuned to sex pheromones, which accounts for the reason why individuals are attracted to one another. It has been proven in scientific studies that scent is a powerful sexual stimulant. Moreover, scent has the unique ability to trigger memory and motivate behaviour and mood. If you have ever found yourself inexplicably drawn to another person, sex pheromones may be just the reason.

 

How can our unique human pheromones be used to appeal to the opposite sex? We are always releasing these powerful and mysterious chemicals into the air, but sometimes with little or no effect. Luckily, human pheromones can be recreated and captured in a bottle. If you would like to increase your pheromone scent, you can use a scientifically engineered pheromone concentrate. The most effective manufactured pheromones come in 99.99% pure oils with both Androstenone and Androstenol pheromones. These products may come as a perfume or cologne, and are also available as wipes. Many men and women have used pheromone oils and reported a significant increase in attention from members of the opposite sex. Think of bottled pheromones as sex appeal in a bottle, and they can work for you!

 

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by: Dan Brownell

Reprinted by Destiny with permission

 

When you think of sex toys, what is the first thought that comes to mind? I'll bet most of you said "a vibrator". The thought that accompanied that was probably, "They're for women". Not so, a vibrator can be a man's sex toy also. It's not exclusive to women, and it's not exclusive to penetration. When a couple is making love, and playing with sex toys, the woman can share the pleasures of a vibrator. Gliding it along the man's genitals, the vibrations can be very stimulating. For the adventurous, anal stimulation with a vibrator can be quite pleasing also. Anal stimulation does not necessarily mean anal penetration.

 

 

Butt plugs are another sex toy designed for both men and women. These are designed for anal penetration, and recommended over the vibrator. It doesn't necessarily mean you are gay, if you enjoy anal pleasure/penetration. Straight men can enjoy anal penetration with these sex toys. A woman may enjoy using these on her partner. Letting him feel (sort of) what she she feels. If anal sex is in the couples repertoire, butt plugs are great toy to have in the "arsenal". Although you might not want to brag at the local watering hole about it.

 

 

Cock rings and sleeves are another type of sex toy for men. These are designed for the man, with the woman in mind. They are not only a "toy" but they also serve a purpose as well. For men suffering from erectile dysfunction, they can help to keep his penis erect. They will also help to prolong ejaculation. There are many types on the market, as the sex toy industry has grown vastly in modern times. You can get cock rings with mini vibrators attached, in strategic locations. These will stimulate a woman's clitoris, or anus, or even both at the same time. They also stimulate the man wearing the cock ring. Other rings are designed to position the mans genitals a certain way. Providing lift to the penis. Some will separate the mans testicles. Then there are rings that do both. Some women will find this both pleasing to the eyes, as well as getting physical pleasure. Women (and men) don't always communicate the little things that turn them on.

 

Sleeves are worn over the penis like a condom. They are made out of various materials, with various textures. You can get them in mild to wild form. The nice this about sleeves, they are inexpensive.

 

 

Penis extensions are another sex toy for men. They are not just the "small guy". No matter what you were endowed with, a penis extension can add a twist in your relationship. Your partner may have a fantasy about having a larger or different penis inside her. With a penis extension she can enjoy this, and still maintain a monogamous relationship. Penis extensions come in all shapes and sizes. They are made of different materials, with Cyberskin™ being the most realistic feeling.

 

 

For the solo man, there are masturbators and "love dolls". Masturbators are hand held (pun intended) toys. Designed to give the man using them a feeling of real vagina, mouth or anus. Depending on the shape/design of the particular toy. Some are very realistic feeling, made of Cyberskin™. Porn stars are marketing some of these. You can get them made of a mold from your favorite star's genitals. Love dolls have come a long way. They used to be just a blow-up "float" made to look like a girl. Now, you can get life sized dolls made of different materials. To give the look and feel of real person. Some have vibrating inserts, to add an even more realistic feeling. Again, the porn stars are capitalizing on the new materials, and making molds for these also.

 

Author Bio:

Dan Brownell is an affiliate of AdamEve.com  They provide safe, secure, and discreet shopping for adult products.

He also writes sexuality articles, sex toy reviews for Jennas Blog, and how-to articles for The Mobile Mechanic

He is the co-author of "Use Of Sex Toy While Driving, Not Safe"
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By Cynthia Perkins, M.Ed. © 2004

Reprinted with permission            

by Destiny

The importance of foreplay is often underestimated and minimized or even ridiculed. The informed experienced lover will know that not only is foreplay one of the most passionate ways to sweep his woman off her feet, but it also increases intimacy, develops trust and care, promotes emotional connection, deepens love and has the ability to enhance his satisfaction as well.

 

First and foremost, adequate foreplay is essential to a woman’s satisfaction and her ability to achieve orgasm. Women need extended stimulation to reach optimal arousal. Adequate foreplay consists of at least 15 minutes, but preferably 20 or more. This is very important for couple’s to know. Many women have difficulty reaching orgasm or experience dissatisfaction with their sexual adventures and often the only cause of these difficulties is the lack of adequate foreplay. Foreplay is physiologically necessary for women’s pleasure, not an unnecessary request she has created to make things more difficult for the male. You can never spend too much time on foreplay. It can only enhance the sexual encounter and the relationship even more.

 

Foreplay has many other important purposes to keep in mind. It shows your lover that you care about her and her needs. The way you touch your woman indicates to her how you feel about her and the way you feel about her impacts how she will respond to you sexually and how pleasurable the sex will be for her. It promotes emotional connection and deepens intimacy, which are two more necessary components for sex to be satisfying for the woman.

 

It is not only the female that benefits from foreplay. On a biological level foreplay induces lubrication for the woman and erection for the man. Taking time to sensuously explore and relish one another’s bodies can significantly help with male sexual problems such as premature ejaculation or impotence, creating harder erections, increased stamina and more satisfying sex for the male as well. As men grow older they may not get erect by sight alone as they once did in younger years, extended periods of touching, kissing and caressing can provide the necessary stimulation needed for erection. Foreplay also builds passion and generates fire making for a more electrifying sexual adventure for both male and female.

 

Foreplay can include much more than basic touching, kissing, holding and caressing. It can also consist of words and behavior that will enhance the excitement and passion. In addition to kissing, touching and holding you might try giving her a loving compliment, expressing affectionate feelings or giving her a gift such as flowers or lingerie. Foreplay does not always have to begin immediately preceding the sexual act.

 

For a very special treat and to really light her fire foreplay that begins in the morning and lasts all day will work even better by producing a loving seduction. The scenario might go something like this: you prepare your lover breakfast or bring her tea and present it to her with a big kiss, before you leave for the day place a sweet love note in a special place for her to find, when you leave for the day hold and kiss her with a deep passionate kiss, then call her later in the day from work and asks how her day is and tell her you love her, or in the call tell her how much you want her and you can’t wait to taste her, later that day send her flowers or when you come home from work bring her a beautiful gift, when you come in the door once again she is greeted with hugs and kisses, before dinner you give her a bath and caresses her feet or you take a shower together, after dinner you clean up the kitchen and tell her to go rest, then you join her in the living room and give her a full body massage and spend at least 15 minutes holding, kissing and licking. By this time her body will be aching with desire.

 

This little dance will reap many rewards for you. No, it’s not realistic that you would do all of these activities each time you want to make love, but once in awhile would make her feel real special and make her appreciate you so much. You will dazzle your woman and have her melting in your arms. The loving act would be remembered and generate a reciprocal effect in which she will want to please you and the relationship will grow stronger and deeper.

 

Sensuous undressing is another powerful form of foreplay that can stimulate and intensify sexual desire. Undress her very slowly with lots of soft gentle kisses on the exposed body parts. Focus on one piece of clothing at time. Look in her eyes while unbuttoning or unzipping. Let her take your shirt off. Let her feel your chest against hers. Hold and caress before moving to more action.

Another trick to prolong satisfaction and build even more desire is that once you have participated in some extended stimulating foreplay and both of you can hardly stand it anymore, then take the foreplay just a little bit further and escalate your hungers to new heights.

As always, communication is the ever-important factor in great sex. If your lover is not meeting your foreplay needs, then you need to speak up and let them know. Tell them what you need or what you would like to try. If speaking the words out loud is too difficult then literally show and guide him. Men, ask your woman what she needs. You can assume that some basics all women will love, but they will also have individual needs. You don’t want to do something she doesn’t enjoy.

 

The enlightened lovers participation in foreplay is not begrudging or the means to an end, they fully enjoy savoring their woman with long sensuous play and delight in bestowing her with pleasure as much as she enjoys receiving. Sex is more satisfying for both partners. They are astutely aware that all the benefits of foreplay put together are important components that will help keep excitement alive and prevent love from eroding or diminishing, thus creating a stronger more fulfilling relationship in every way.

 

 
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By Knut Holt

There is a widespread misunderstanding by many women, and surprisingly also by many men that boys and men only have sexual feelings in their penis, or even only in their penis head. The reason why many men also carry this misconception is probably that boys often are educated to suppress corporeal sensations and to be hard.

Many erogenous zones in men and boys are best activated when the body is relaxed, and the zones are stimulated in a gentle manner. Gentle stimulation of these zones in a relaxed state can give feelings of pleasure as strong as those in the penis, and can even result in some types of strong orgasmic reactions. Here is a survey of various erotic zones in the male body, and how to stimulate the sensations in these zones. You can stimulate yourself at these zones when masturbating, or your female or gay partner can do the stimulation work.

THE SCROTUM AND THE TESTICLES

The scrotal skin and the content of the scrotum, including the testicles, are sensitive to erotic stimulation. When stimulating these genital parts, take first hold of the scrotum with your whole hand, warming it inside your hand, and massaging it gently by gripping movements. Warming and handling the scrotum gives feelings in the whole genital region. Stimulation of the scrotum also increases the blood circulation and engorgement of all the genital organs around the scrotum. The testicles are best stimulated by gentle rolling movements with your fingers. Also tickle the scrotal skin with your finger tips. A part of the penis is actually hidden partly inside and partly behind the scrotal sack, by palpating with your finger tips between the testicles or at the side under the scrotum; you can massage this part of the penis. A sharp massage with your finger tips gives the most intense sensations to this hidden root of the penis.

THE BREAST NIPPLES AND THEIR SURROUNDINGS

The nipples of a man are important erogenous zones, and a man has tits just as a woman, although the tits of a man are smaller and flatter that those of a woman. Actually a man has all the structures that a woman has in his breasts, but they are not developed to have a milk producing capacity. This means that a man’s breasts have the same erotic capacity as the tits of woman. A man's nipples also have an erective capacity. They rise and get hard upon stimulation. When stimulating a man’s breasts, take hold of the breast with your whole hand, warming it inside your hand, and massaging it gently by gripping movements. To stimulate the nipples, massage gently around the nipples with a finger tip. Also squeeze the nipples with your fingers, varying the intensity from the very gentle nip to some harder pressure.

THE REGION BETWEEN THE PENIS AND THE ANUS

The visible penis is actually a part of a larger body beginning at the prostate region just in front of the anus, and reaches to the tip of the penis. The urethra also goes through this structure. The parts between your legs will engorge when you are sexually exited just as the penis, and when it engorges, the region bulges out between the legs. Upon mechanical stimulation, this area gives intense pleasurable feelings. You can stimulate this area by squeezing it between your fingers, pressing down against the urethra or massaging up and down along the urethra. You should change between gentle and a little harder handling, as these two manners give rise to different types of feelings.

THE NAVEL AND THE BLADDER REGION

The navel is an erotic point, and so are the structures in the middle of the belly between the navel and the penis. This structure contains a groove between the belly muscles. The structures in this groove are very sensuous, the so called linea alba. The naval can be stimulated by sticking a finger into it, and by tickling with your finger deep down in the navel. Also here you should alternate between light, gentle, slow tickling, and harder sharper tickling. This stimulation give sensations that radiate out form the navel to the surroundings, and spreads downwards to the tip of your penis, giving a very funny feeling in your penis. The groove between the navel and the penis, you can stimulate by massaging up and down with the tip of your fingers.

THE BUTTOCKS AND ANAL SURROUNDINGS

The inner sides of the buttocks in the natal cleft give rise to deep erotic feelings with a very special intimate valor. Move your fingers up and down between the buttocks from the spine to the opposite end between the legs, and gently massage the inner side of each buttock with your finger tips. You can also concentrate your attention to the region deep inside the cleft very near the anus and tickle these most intimate points with your finger tips. Further you can stretch each buttock to the side so that the butt cleft opens, and the rectal opening is also stretched. The result of these manipulations is erotic sensations that radiate to the whole pelvic area, flow deep inside you and rise upwards along your spine.

THE ANUS AND THE OUTER RECTUM

The anal region is in many ways the real central of feelings in a man or boy. By stimulating this area in the proper ways, you can create a process that spread waves of intense feelings of joy, pleasure and ecstasy up through the whole body, partly forward to the genitals and belly region, and partly along the spine up to the neck. You best stimulate the rectal opening by very gentle circulatory movements with your finger tips. Alternate between these circulatory movements and the stimulation of the insides of the buttocks. You can also stick a smeared finger into the anal opening and stimulate by gentle movements in and out. By sticking your finger further inside, you can gently massage the inside walls of the anus. By adding some pressure, your stimulation reaches deep into the tissue around the rectum. All these stimulation give rise to profound feelings radiating to the whole body.

THE DEEP PART OF THE RECTUM

 The perhaps most intimate and sensitive zone of a man, is the deep part of the rectum. This zone can be reached by gay intercourse or with a dildo or some other long object. When inserting something in the anus to stimulate this zone, it is necessary to be very cautious so that the intestinal walls are not hurt. However, this zone is so sensitive that even the gentlest stimulation gives an immense depth of feelings, both of physical and psychological kind. You can stimulate this zone by gently and gradually by inserting a thin smeared dildo, and when fully inserted, very gently move it a little in and out, a little around, or press gently to different sides with the dildo. The more you relax, and the longer you do this stimulation, the deeper and more intense will the feelings grow.

THE PROSTATE

The prostate lies just in front of the anus and the urethra goes through it. This gland produces much of the viscous fluid in the semen. You can stimulate it from the outside by pressing somewhat firmly with your fingers inward just in front of the anus. There is a deepening in this area, just like a little vagina. Press your finger into this groove and a little forward. You can also stimulate the prostate by inserting your finger into the anus and massage the prostate through the front wall of the anus. The massage releases prostate fluid. Feeling the fluid coming through your urethra and dripping out through you pee-hole, add to the physical excitement. Also the prostate have its own sexual feelings, and prostate massage combined with anal stimulation can induce a form of orgasm that has a much deeper psychological and ecstatic impact than ordinary penile orgasm.

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By Cynthia Perkins, M.Ed.

1. Touch - Women are very tactile beings. They love to be touched and caressed. Hold her, massage her, tease and tantalize her playfully with your fingers. Don't go straight to the genitals, pay attention to her whole body.

 

 

2. Kisses - Deep passionate kisses are one of the biggest turn ons for a woman. Looking into her eyes or touching her face while kissing her can increase the arousal of the kiss. Kissing other parts of the body such as the neck, belly, inner thighs, buttocks, pelvis area surrounding the vagina, fingers and maybe even the feet for some can heighten her pleasure.

 

 

3. Emotional Connection For women,- sex is usually an emotional act as well as a physical act. The deeper the emotional connection, the better the sex will be for her and the deeper her desire for her lover will become. Share your feelings with your woman and express how you feel about her freely. For her, what goes on outside the bedroom is an important factor of what will occur in the bedroom.

 

 

4. Foreplay & Aferplay-There is nothing that is a bigger turn off for a woman than a lover who immediately begins penetration without tending to her body and mind. Just as important as foreplay is the period of time immediately following the sex, afterplay. Afterplay reinforces how a woman feels about the sexual experience and will have a great impact on how she responds to her lover in the future.

 

 

5. Make Her Feel Important,- Women also need to feel important to their lover. Take an active interest in who she is as a person and what goes on in her life. Ignite your woman's passion by making her feel special, cherished and adored.

6. Value and Respect-For sex to be at its best, most women need to feel valued and respected by their lover. Her desire and level of satisfaction will grow deeper. She will want her lover more frequently and be more motivated to meet his sexual needs as well.

 

 

7. Listen-Women are more attracted to a man who listens to her and actually hears her. Being heard makes her feel important and valued, thereby increasing her feelings of intimacy with her lover and encouraging her to be free and uninhibited in her lovemaking. Her level of satisfaction is enhanced and her desire for her lover increased.

 

 

8. Show Her Your Passion & Desire-A woman wants to be wanted passionately. She wants to see your deep desire for her and feel how much you want her. Pursue her passionately and she will be a wild cat full of desire.

 

 

9. Take Your Time-The path to orgasm is just as fulfilling as the orgasm itself and the path is also important for enhancing her orgasmic experience. Take the long meandering road, savoring, pampering and adoring every part of her body along the way.

 

 

10. Be a Master of Oral-The majority of women cannot achieve orgasm through intercourse. Taking pleasure in delighting your woman orally is by far one of the most enjoyable ways for her to be satisfied.

 

 

Cynthia Perkins, M.Ed., is a sex advisor/educator and writer specializing in sexual intimacy and keeping the fire alive. She is also author of the hot new sex guide for couples titled, "Smoldering Embers-Hot Erotic Stories and Sex Tips to Light a Couple's Fire. Services, Books and a FREE Monthly EZine can be found at her website. http://www.smolderingembers.com/ or send any email to this address to subscribe to the FREE Newsletter smolderingembers-subscribe@topica.com

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As I was thinking about my hubby and marriage today I got to thinking just how similar it all is to a successful garden. I know, your going "wtf" is she talking about but, just hear me out. When you think about it there are several aspects that are the same. First you decide you'd like to have a garden (marriage). You carefully select the perfect plant (mate) that you want to put in your garden according to its' traits. (What does it need from you to grow and become the best it can be, while contemplating what does it have to offer you in return) Now you place that perfect plant in your garden (marriage) and you tend to its' needs lovingly. You communicate with each other. (if a plant isn't happy it let's you know) You make sure that the soil (home) is a warm, welcoming and comfortable place to put its' roots in. You provide plenty of room for it to grow (relationships with you and others) You make sure it has enough sunshine (happiness) along with enough shade (alone time) as it needs. You provide the right amount of water (understanding) and food (sex). You give it support and admire it in all stages of its life. Constantly striving to keep it (marriage) alive. Weeding (dealing with the reality of the outside world) is a necessary chore, unpleasant perhaps but a very important job none the less. Then you decide you want to expand your garden (have children) and you plant some seeds. And in no time it seems that you have some little plants that need tending to. Being young they need a lot of nurturing and seem to take up a whole lot more of your time, energy and attention. Yet you give them all that they need and more because you are a master gardener! But you must remember not to neglect your first perfect plant (spouse) and continue to keep it happy so that the young plants can see it as an example of what they can become. When they've become adult enough, you offer them as a gift to someone else who would like a garden and who will continue to love and care for them and make them happy. But in the meantime your perfect plant (spouse) has been there through it all, growing and ageing along with you. Sometimes having to take the back seat but not minding because it knows that not only does it have a great home with lots of sunshine, food and water it also has what every living thing wants....unconditional love.